Great post Amra. There’s so much I identify with here. Menopause forced me to deal with my over functioning in relationships. It simply wasn’t possible anymore. One of the things that helped me was getting my own bedroom. Despite - and perhaps because of - having two relationships, I need my own bed and a place where I can retreat! The need for solitude is so urgent I don’t even like having the cat in here.
There's this silly romantic idea that if you don't share a bed it's not a real relationship but good boundaries and good sleep are the basis for sanity!
Great post Amra. There’s so much I identify with here. Menopause forced me to deal with my over functioning in relationships. It simply wasn’t possible anymore. One of the things that helped me was getting my own bedroom. Despite - and perhaps because of - having two relationships, I need my own bed and a place where I can retreat! The need for solitude is so urgent I don’t even like having the cat in here.
I actually have my own bedroom too. We’ve been in separate rooms for 18 out of 28 years of marriage. Such a lifesaver.
There's this silly romantic idea that if you don't share a bed it's not a real relationship but good boundaries and good sleep are the basis for sanity!